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Modesty - Skin or What's "In"?

Modesty.  This morning as I was getting dressed I was reminded of how contentious the idea of modesty could be at the conservative Christian school I attended as an undergraduate.  It was the young women's responsibility to dress in a way that wouldn't "tease" the young men.  The women were held responsible for protecting the men's morality.  I remember reflecting on this as a student and wondering if the same rules would apply if the school were located in a southern state instead of the cold, wintry north.  I also thought it might be better for us women to desensitize the men from skin so they weren't turned on so easily!

Recently, I've encountered two other reactions to modesty that were different from my college experience. In one, a group of immigrants from a very warm climate of the world were complaining that the public school's dress code regarding modesty was too strict.  One father explained that the clothing his daughter wore was perfectly…

Unplanned pregnancy? Considering abortion?

To the woman considering an abortion,
I’m sorry that you are facing an unplanned pregnancy. I can’t imagine the fear or the troubling circumstances you must be facing.But before you choose to abort, please take a moment to consider what a miracle it is that you are even pregnant!
To conceive a child requires perfect timing.Even when trying to become pregnant, there is only a 20% chance each month we will be successful.Add to that the fact that intercourse must take place in the optimal time frame of the month. Yes, when we ovulate, our pheromones, or the animal scent that attracts us one to another, is at its prime. As is the cervical mucus to carry the sperm to reach the egg. And so perhaps we are more likely to have intercourse when we are most fertile.But that still doesn’t mean that a healthy sperm will reach a healthy egg, that the two will meet, and that the blastocyst (embryo) that is formed will implant into the uterine wall.Statistically it is incredible any of us ever become p…

Who is God?

We don't get to define God.  God gets to define us.  See Psalm 78 & Matthew 13

Interpreting 1 Samuel 1 & 2 - Can a fertile understand it?

Deep sigh.  This Christmas I received a devotional book written by a highly respected Christian author.  Coincidentally the devotional book starts in 1 Samuel, which is where I am picking up my slow and steady read through of the Bible this calendar year.  Interestingly, someone I didn't expect mentioned reading a devotional written by this same author just yesterday.  So I finally made myself read from the devotional, even though I don't agree with the author's interpretation of the story of Hannah.

There is a part of me that wants to proclaim that no one who has never experienced the crisis of childlessness should be allowed to interpret this text or any other related to the life of a barren biblical matriarch.  But this wouldn't be fair, because logically it would mean that none of us would be allowed to interpret any section of Scripture for which we aren't personally familiar.

Yet, it is painful to read the author criticize Elkanah's response, without rea…

2017 Women's March in Washington D.C. - the response of a barren woman.

We live in a culture in which adoptive parents are criticized for "taking" someone else's baby, and yet we march to encourage "freedom" of abortion.  My heart is struggling with the Women's March that just took place in Washington D.C.  On one hand, I'm proud of so many women gathering together to express unity and a desire for good for women across the globe.  I think of how privileged I am as a woman living in the United States.  Even though I may be criticized and come against opposition, I can choose whatever life I want for myself.  Yet in so many places across the world this is not the case.  So, I would march for my sisters who cannot march.



On the other hand, my heart is grieved.  This isn't a statement of lightly banded together words to figuratively express an emotional appeal.  No, my heart grieves.  I am a barren woman.  I desire a child.  And yet the march that took place Saturday, January 21st, 2017 in Washington D.C. represents milli…

The lost baby.

This morning, after two weeks of emotional silence, I decided to quietly share with God that I am angry.  It was a quiet conversation, not the type where you yell at God, because my anger isn't directed anywhere.  In our exchange I was reminded of how in the past I thought it was unfair to David and Bathsheba's child that he had to die because of their sin.  This morning though that story came to mind and the idea that the child didn't grieve because the child went straight to heaven.  An infant that is lost doesn't grieve.  It doesn't seem unfair to him or her because the infant knows of nothing different.  Mother's womb to glorious heavenly embrace of the Eternal Parent.  There is no loss to the child, only gain.

Tips for a Car Salesperson from a Potential Customer

Dear Car Salesperson,
For the last eleven months my husband and I have been shopping for a car.We have been eager to buy, and yet we have not purchased any vehicle.I believe this is due to poor salesmanship of the auto industry.So, I now offer tips to all car salespeople.
·Don’t forget to close the sale.Bring the contract (with the small print) to the customer and ask them how they want to pay.Yes, even before they have said, “Yes.”    A customer can't pick up a car and carry it through the check-out lane.  The customer has to wait until the salesperson pulls out the contract and asks for the money.  Assume their answer is "yes," and say, "so, here is the contract... how would you like to pay?" The ability to close the sale is an essential skill for a car salesperson! 
·That being said, don’t ask questions where the customer will answer “no.”When you ask a question where the answer is “no,” it makes it easier for the customer to say “no,” when you try to sell the…